Monday, January 31, 2011

Patience: Step 3 & 4

I meant to post this last night but Paul and I were chatting and then I got distracted b/c he and I were listening to a conference talk and this just didn't happen. :) So, I'm going it now. What was step three? "Become sensitive to the examples of patience and of impatience that occur around us every day. We should strive to emulate those individuals we consider to be patient."

I tried very hard yesterday to be conscious of myself. I was actually proud of myself. Yesterday was Sunday so we had the ole' get ready for church morning. It actually went okay. Instead of expecting my poor husband to read my mind I asked him to help me with things. For the most part, the kids cooperated but when Collin decided he'd rather play with his cars than eat his breakfast, I remained calm. I didn't freak out or anything. I even felt calm. I wasn't just holding it in, well, there were times that I was holding it in but mostly, I really was calm. Everyone ate, dressed and we made it to church in time for me to set up the primary room and be in our seats before sacrament meeting started.

Throughout the day, I saw so many examples around me. I continued to try hard. There were a few times during the day where I had to grit my teeth and take a deep breath but I was really proud of myself. YAY!!

Now, for step 4. Step 4 is going to last the rest of my life --- step three probably will too. Step 4 is to "Recommit each day to become more patient, and be certain to keep our selected family members involved in our patience project." Paul knows all about it and so do my kiddos so hopefully together we'll do okay and I will be more patient with them and my husband. :)

Sunday, January 30, 2011

Momentous Day in 2011

No, I'm not talking about my birthday (although, I am 28 today!) but I am referring to the fact that today is the first day that all four of us have gone to church and were healthy in the year 2011. I know that sounds bad but we keep getting sick and then sharing it. One day, I went in early for ward council, then went home with the sick child so Paul and Collin could go to sacrament mtg, then they came home and then Collin and I went back for primary. LOL! We had several days where we alternated like that. It was really quite interesting. Anyways, we all made it to church today and I am soooo glad!! That's probably why the kids were wiggle worms. It's the first time they've both been in the seats together for a month.

Saturday, January 29, 2011

Patience: Step 2

Step 2 in achieving patience according to Robert C Oaks is to "Evaluate ourselves to determine where we stand on the patience continuum. How much more patience do we need to become more Christlike? This self-assessment is difficult. We might ask our spouse or another family member to help us."

I talked to Paul and my mom and they were no help. They both think that I have a lot of patience. However, I know better. Here are the times that Paul and I came up with that cause me to lose my temper and then I tried to come up with ways to fix those problems.
  • When the kids disobey.
    • This one is really hard for me. I don't understand why they won't just obey the first time. Sometimes I have to ask and ask and put them in timeout and ask some more. So, we need a better discipline system I guess. I have ordered a book called "The Children I Want With the Kids I Have". Don't misinterpret me by the title. I absolutely adore my kids. They are the loves of my life but I would really like for them to obey. Hopefully I'll learn something from there. Also, I think I need to be more consistent and maybe a bit more creativity will help as well. 
  • When I am trying to do something and the kids want my attention.
    • I need to make sure that the kids and I spend quality time together BEFORE homework or chores. When I am trying to do something, I am very good at ignoring the kiddos. I mean, I know exactly where they are and what they are doing but I block out the sounds. This doesn't always lead to great endings. I'm hoping that if I give them the attention first or wait for them to nap or bed time to do it then we'll end some of the drama. Maybe when working on chores I can get them more involved. I also think this may help out a bit more with the obedience issue mentioned previously.
  • When Paul doesn't help me when I think he should be helping me.
    • This one frustrates both myself and Paul. I think that we need better communication then. I need to tell him exactly what I need from him instead of expecting him to guess. Normally, this is when we're getting ready to go to church or something and are in a hurry.
 Now you know a bunch of my faults but I'm hoping that making this public I'll be more likely to follow through with it and to improve on my patience. Make sure you hold me accountable!

Friday, January 28, 2011

Patience: Step 1

In our ward, we are doing a class for young mothers once a month. For January, it was on Patience! I thought this was perfect b/c with young children, everyone can use a healthy dose of patience. There was one talk that we used as a resource called The Power of Patience. In this talk, the reader is given four steps. The first step is to read each of the scriptures in the Topical Guide listed under the topic "patience" and then ponder Christ's patient examples. This is what I was working on tonight. I thought I'd share some of my favorite scriptures:
  • Proverbs 14:29, "He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly."
  • Luke 21:19, "In your patience possess ye your soulds."
  • Romans 5:3, "... we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience."
  • Hebrews 10:36, "For ye have the need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, he might receive the promise."
  • Hebrews 12:1, "... let us run with patience the race that is set before us."
There are many more cool ones in the scriptures but these are the ones that stuck out to me the most. 

Monday, January 24, 2011

Messes and rocking herself to sleep

 This is what happens when my children decide to play train. They don't play with the wooden trains and track, oh no! That would be too simple. They dump out the toy boxes and line them up and sit in them and drive them all over the world. This was actually a lot of fun for them.... it was the aftermath that wasn't quite as enjoyable. ;)
 Ronni goes to bed before Collin so by the time he climbs into his top bunk, Ronni is out on the bottom bunk. Well, the other day I went in there to take Collin and Ronni wasn't in bed. I couldn't find her. Then I noticed this strange pile of blankets on the rocking cow. I lifted up the blanket and there she was. Apparently she fell asleep while rocking...??? hehe!

Monday, January 17, 2011

Patriots Point

This weekend we took some stuff to my mom at her new home. While we were there, the five of us went to Patriots Point. It was very cool, the kids were SO excited about it.
 Here we are walking out to the ship.
 My kids, the fighter pilots. Ronni had to sit on her knees for us to get her in the picture. hehe!

 Paul explaining to the kids how the generator worked.
 An F-15... Collin was really excited about the cartoon image of Felix the Cat on this plane. He's one of Collin's favorite cartoons.
 We HAD to go on the flight simulator while we were there. The four of us were the only ones on it for our turn too. I had Collin with me and he was smiling and laughing the entire time. I think Ronni had fun too but I didn't get to see her face.
 My kids and the big gun!
 Throughout the tour Ronni was looking for a helicopter. We FINALLY found one and she claimed it as HER helicopter so we had to get a picture of it. :)

Below: Paul and Collin. The engine was no longer in the plane so it was just a long tunnel. :)
 The Captain's Chair!!!

Now, time to explore the submarine!

 These are what Paul referred to as Hobbit Doors. Actually, I think he said they were too small for Hobbit doors. LOL! He had a hard time with them. :)

 Here is a sample of how tight parts of the sub were. Paul is in the background feeling a bit claustrophobic. hehe!

I am so excited that my mom now lives near so many great things. Hopefully we'll get to visit these fun places more often!! :)

Sunday, January 16, 2011

Oh man oh man! I just watched this movie. Let me just say AMAZING!!! I have never heard of it before but it reminds me a lot of Dead Poet's Society. It's a school for boys on the sea. It's sort of a coming of age story for the boys then a storm hits and trouble comes and they must all stick together or everything will fall apart. It was really a fabulous story. There was a little bit of foul language in it however.... just a warning.

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Thursday, January 13, 2011

warmer without heat???

Yeah, so, I'm sitting in the house all wrapped up in a blanket. Why? Well, because I'm cold. It was warmer in this house without working heat, I think. Maybe it was because if I got cold then I just walked over to the fire and sat by it. Now, I don't have that option. I think I miss our constantly burning fire. hehe!

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Christmas, New Year, Ice Storm

Yeah, so, I've gotten a bit behind. Our life has pretty much been go go go!! since Thanksgiving. We went to TX for Thanksgiving then came home for two days and then the kids and I left for NY to pick up my mom. We came back and then we just kept going. Kami stayed with us during her Christmas break too so we had 6 ppl living in our 2 bedroom, 1 bath home. It was a bit tight. haha!

Christmas was fun though! Ronni and I spent Christmas Eve day at the doctor's office. She had strep throat and I had an ear infection so we weren't able to go to the family's house that evening. On Christmas Day my sis, her hubby and their 4 kids were at our house. If you did your math correctly then you figured out that meant 12 ppl in our little home. 6 of them were 6 or under. It was great being all together though, even if the conditions were a bit tight. :) The day after Christmas (Kami's 17th b-day) we had SNOW!!!

New Years was just my mom and us. My sis and family were back home and Kami went to Greenville so there were only 5 of us in our home. We didn't really do anything exciting.We had fried rice and egg rolls for dinner so a very untraditional meal.My mom and I were the only ones who stayed up to welcome in the New Year. We stayed up watching Tin Man. LOL!

My mom now has a job in Charleston so she's there, we are all (somewhat) healthy again and we thought life would finally get back to normal but yesterday we woke up to a white world and everything was closed! Even Paul's work. So we were home all day as the snow storm came in. Today, everything is closed again b/c of all the ice. It seems to be melting now and we've kept power the whole time so that's a plus. The set back is that our heater decided to start working yesterday morning. Boo!!! Now we have to pay for that. It has been fun all being together with a white world around us and a hot fire to snuggle up by. Here are some pics:

Here are the kids having fun in the "snow".... I guess it was actually sleet. :)
The ice was just too pretty not to take a picture of it and share.
This was just a perfect picture for SC. Last week the weather was almost 70 degrees so it is a nice, green holly bush with berries and icicles hanging from them. haha!
The kids snuggled up by the fire to warm up. :) Aren't they cute! Aren't you jealous that you're not there? haha!